Posted By heyyouguys at
long story short my mate wanted someone he could trust to be his wife so i offered to play as a women for my first life because he trusts me and because i cant afford the big titles, so i was wondering what exactly is the role of a countess? is it basically a baron or is it just a title with no real weight.
Well if your mate is the count, and you have no real title, you can simply dump everything on him and pursue your own goals with no real obligation.
Another option could be to take on some of his responsibilities at the settlement level, making you the defacto mayor in his stead. Some of those responsibilities as well as a lot of info on counts can be seen here in the Kingdom and Land Management dj.
Otherwise you can take on and help him in some of his roles as count, which include maintaining infrastructure in your county, taxes, and general governing of your territories.