I’ve had a couple of people ask about how exactly something like this would work so I thought I’d post how I understand it to be possible.
As a count I should earn SP at a higher rate than someone who is unknown (fame level). If someone were to marry into my family they would gain a significant amount of fame themselves. They wouldn’t rise to the same fame level as me but would gain quite a bit.
In that life they would help me rule ie I would using whatever method exists appoint them to have the same control or as close to it as I have over the county. (Here is where the need to meet and get along with my duke comes in. Basicly need to be on the same page). As they work to make the county better through ruling it they would gain SP. our child would be designated their heir but would have my title(s) directed to them upon my death.
All that said I understand most people (not all) will prefer playing a male character. To help make things easier I’m not against playing my first life as a female character (will not be RPing as one for the marriage. Would be uncomfortable all around I’d imagine).
So if you’d like a title without the funding to outright purchase one feel free to message me.